Networking is a crucial component of career development, yet many professionals struggle with it. Drawing from my experience coaching numerous individuals on career networking, I’ve identified several common pitfalls, which I refer to as the "seven sins of networking." Here are these sins, along with practical tips to avoid them.
1. Believing You Can Succeed Alone
Many people think they can achieve their career goals without networking, often because they’ve had negative experiences or see networking as favoritism. This mindset is a significant barrier.
Tip 1: Start by changing your perspective. Networking is not about asking for favors; it’s about learning and sharing opportunities. Read "Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferrazzi to understand the value of building relationships.
Tip 2: When asking for help, be specific to make it easier for others to assist you. For instance, instead of saying, "I need a job," say, "I am looking for opportunities in regulatory affairs in the pharma industry."
2. Thinking You Have No Value to Offer
A common worry is, "Why would anyone want to meet with me?" This fear often stops people from reaching out.
Tip: Reflect on what unique insights or experiences you can offer. Value can come in many forms, such as sharing industry knowledge, offering help with a project, or providing local recommendations. For example, you might help a new colleague settle in by sharing tips about the local area. Building self-confidence through activities like Toastmasters can also help. Remember, people at higher levels often appreciate genuine connections and fresh perspectives. They are often more open to interactions that provide new insights and unfiltered feedback from within the organization.
3. Not Knowing What to Talk About
Once a meeting is set, many people freeze, unsure of what to discuss.
Tip: Prepare by researching the person and their interests. Find common ground and focus on understanding their needs rather than just presenting yourself. Prepare your stories like you would do for an interview. If you’re unsure, talk about your passions – enthusiasm is always engaging. Another approach is to bond over shared interests and then delve into professional topics. The key is to listen more than you speak and to be genuinely interested in the other person.
4. Not Knowing Who to Talk To
Identifying the right people to network with can be daunting.
Tip: Start with your immediate circle and expand gradually. Use LinkedIn, company directories, and professional organizations to identify potential contacts.
5. Focusing Solely on Immediate Needs
Networking should be about building long-term relationships, not just securing a job.
Tip: Reframe your approach to see networking as a learning journey. Show genuine curiosity about your contact’s work and interests. This builds a solid foundation for future opportunities. Networking is really about planting a seed and nurturing it over time. Approach your network with the mindset of building a relationship, not just solving an immediate need.
6. Not Having Time for Networking
Many people feel they are too busy to network, seeing it as an additional burden on their already packed schedules.
Tip: Reframe your role to see networking as an essential part of professional development. In today's fast-paced environment, everyone needs to lead from their seat and connect the dots themselves. Consider integrating networking into your routine using tools like Trello or a simple CRM to track contacts and interactions. Set calendar reminders to maintain regular touchpoints with key contacts. Viewing networking as a strategic activity rather than an optional task can help you prioritize it effectively.
7. Not Being Authentic
Some people feel uncomfortable sharing personal information or feel they need to present a perfect image.
Tip: Authenticity is key to building meaningful relationships. Share your real self, including your challenges and vulnerabilities. If you're struggling with this, I recommend reading "Dare to Lead" by Brené Brown. Being open and authentic invites others to do the same, leading to more genuine and supportive connections.
Conclusion
Effective networking is about building meaningful relationships, offering value, and maintaining regular contact. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can create a robust professional network that supports your career growth. Remember, networking is a continuous process that requires genuine effort and consistency.
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