"This is probably stupid, but…" is the most expensive phrase in your meetings

"This is probably stupid, but…" is the most expensive phrase in your meetings.

Some people judge every idea before they share it. "I will probably look ridiculous." "Just a thought." By the time the idea reaches the room, its own author has already sanded it down.

In coaching, I name it the moment it happens, then hand it back: "I notice you judge yourself before you speak. What do you make of that?"

Managers can do the same in a 1:1 or a meeting. Say what you see. Then ask for the idea again, without the apology in front of it.

The next idea that person brings will arrive a little less sanded down.

Which idea did you shrink before sharing it this week?